Why 'Don't Fix?' When Awakening Your Adaptive Organism?
I'm hypothesizing that the best way to improve a ragged interoceptive system is to remind it how much fun it is to learn: take in current information, give it a fresh look, adapt. For this, you need your system to pay attention (which is facilitated by you paying attention) and it would probably also be helpful for y'all to have a little quiet safe space to work in. Your system is not going to want to refresh itself while it is still in crisis. Think about it: 'Fixing' is not a safe space. To fix is an imposition, a confusion, possibly even a threat. For this type of healing, you want to take pressure off, not add to it. The broken bone can be fixed. But to try to fix the crisis-monger when it is still attached to the crisis? That just deepens the crisis. Back off. No fixing!